A Cup of Hollywood

Within the past year I found my favorite place in the world.  It is simple really – it wasn’t Italy, Australia or the exotic rainforest.  It was Hollywood.

If you have never visited Hollywood, like I had not, you picture all the glitz and glamour that is portrayed on television.  The red carpet, the stars on Hollywood Walk of Fame, and limousines with famous people riding in the back them.  Yes, this is Hollywood – on a night of a new movie premier.  On a daily basis Hollywood presents a much different culture, which is what made it my favorite place in the world.

When you stroll down the Hollywood Walk of Fame you see many sights.  It goes a little like this:  wax museum, tour bus (to visit the stars home), porn shop with stripper clothes, restaurant, wax museum, tour bus, porn shop, restaurant – and so on.  Mixed into the fabulous sites is a plethora of filth, poverty and garbage.  So why is this my favorite place on earth?  Hollywood has an energy that cannot be described.  It is filled with people chasing their dreams with a hope that they will, one day, come true.  You can actually feel the buzz of energy in the air.  It is so inspiring and freeing to be in Hollywood.  I can spend hours in Hollywood taking it all in.

We all need a favorite place to go.  A place that we feel refreshed and inspired.  A place that opens our hearts and honors our creativity.  A place bouncing with so much energy that you can actually feel the buzz in the air.  Hollywood fills my cup of creativity.  Where do you fill your cup of creativity?  What gifts does it offer you?  Do you feel like you are floating on a cloud when you are there?  If so – that is your place.  Soak it in.  Use the energy to inspire you and fill your cup of creativity.  Live your dreams without fear – like those who went to Hollywood.

Me on the Hollywood Walk of Fame with Iron Man!

Impulsive Living or Just Living?

Bucket lists.  Why do we create “bucket lists?”  Better yet, why do we create bucket lists and then stress out whether or not we complete the “bucket list.”  Isn’t that contradicting the idea of relaxation and living a stress-free life?  Bucket lists are meant to be fun and freeing while at the same time reaching exciting goals!

I recently had surgery and was forced to stay on the couch for 6 weeks.  This is impossible for me, just so you all know.  While I was sitting on my butt I decided to create my bucket list.  It is amazing how many things you want to accomplish when you can’t.  Now that I am all recovered I found that my bucket list fell by the wayside…until one evening a bucket list opportunity was upon me. That is how you should accomplish bucket list tasks – letting them fall into your lap and not stressing out about completing them.

Needless to say, I was overcome with feelings of excitement and freedom related to “completing” the task on my bucket list.  I won’t go into detail, but it wasn’t illegal or something terrible – it was exciting, but my bucket list is personal.  The big question is how does it feel to check that accomplishment off my bucket list?  It feels AMAZING!  It was a rush of ultimate power and control – over myself!  Nobody else was telling me what to do or whether I should be doing it.  I just did it – freely.

I want to leave this life knowing that I tried everything I ever wanted to, and it didn’t matter whether or not I succeeded or failed, but that I tried.  I don’t want to miss out on anything, therefore, I live in the moment.  Some people call it impulsive, but I call it living life.  Are you living your life?

Me sitting in a chair at High Voltage Tattoo in Hollywood (love this chair – Kat Von D is sitting in one similar – or this one – on the cover of her second book)! I got a tattoo there that day. The infinity sign on my right wrist. I am enjoying life and living freely!

Undies in a Bunch? Find Balance

Why is it that we live in a society with high levels of stress?  People are always on the go and running from one place to another.  I am just as guilty.  On the days I work at the office I find that am from one meeting to another with a latte or diet coke in hand (which does not help with stress as we all know).  How do we slow down?  Having high levels of stress is like constantly having your “undies in a bunch.”

Slowing down actually takes some practice and you have to be conscious about it.  When we are stressed out or rushing our nervous system is highly activated.  We have to work to maintain a BALANCED nervous system.  Just like anything else in life – you need balance.  Become aware of your “rushing” or stress.  Notice it, then ask yourself “what can I do right now, in this moment, to pull my undies out of a bunch?”  Then do it.  It can be as simple as deep breathing, or as big as getting up and taking a walk.  You will find that if your nervous system is balanced you will be more productive, relaxed, and focused.  When we are stressed out we tend to have “multiple” things on our mind, and we are not paying attention to what is happening in the now.  We are already thinking about the next appointment or task.  Balance yourself and relax.  Give your full attention to the here and now.

Being in a constant state of “having your undies in a bunch” is not pleasurable or enjoyable.  Take the time to slow down and live a balanced life.  If you find that you cannot un-bunch your undies you might want to switch to a thong – that way you can keep that unpleasant state of bunched up undies day and night.  You will not enjoy it and you will end up even more miserable and stressed out.

Dance on that Table!

Throughout our lives I worry that too many people suppress who they actually are for fear of “not fitting in.”  We are often afraid of being judged by others and because of that we miss out on many great adventures in our lives.  Those adventures may be something small or something big, but either way we are not experiencing them because of the FEAR of judgement.

So I am a table dancer.  Yep.  I am the person that jumps up on a table and dances if I love the song.  I go crazy.  I throw my hair, my arms, legs.  I take the moment in, and I am extremely carefree about it.  I will do this in a crowd full of people or by myself at home (I am also a mirror dancer – I totally rock at dancing and must witness it from time to time)!  Of course I hear the whispers in the crowd talking about my mad table dancing skills.  You know they are saying things like “she is so immature” or “she is just trying to get attention.”  So I pose the question:  am I attention seeker or the life of the party?  I always like to think I am the life of the party, but I don’t care if people think I am seeking attention.  I am not.  I am just living in the moment.  And you know what?  I bet those those people whom are judging me are silently wishing they had the guts to dance on the table too.  But they don’t – because they fear the judgement.

So my message today is simple – dance on that table like EVERYONE is watching and be sure to give them a great show!  Feel the freedom of life – dance on that table.  Take the risk.  Feel free.  Let the judgements of others roll off your body with the beat of the music.  Live in the moment and don’t miss out on anything life has to offer.

Corn-on-the-Cob and Commitments

Commitment.  Have you ever noticed how people fear that word?  Whether it be related to a relationship, a contract or an activity, people are afraid to commit to things.

Last night while eating corn-on-the-cob I thought a bit about why people fear commitment.  Is it the word itself that sends people running or is it the fact that our lives move and change so fast we fear being locked into something for an extended length of time?

Let’s start with a simple commitment – like I stated above I was eating corn-on-the-cob last night thinking about commitment.  Why corn-on-the-cob, you ask?  Well think about it…eating the corn-on-the-cob is a commitment in itself.  It all starts with choosing to eat the corn.  You select your corn, butter it up and chomp away.  While you are indulging in your corn-on-the-cob you really can’t put it down or stop to wipe your face.  Once you start eating it you might as well finish.  If you stop to “clean up,” within two seconds, you will end up getting all buttery again.  It is pointless.  Not to mention, once you eat the corn-on-the-cob it you can guarantee you will have it in your teeth until you find dental floss, a toothpick, or have the ability to brush your teeth.  You are committed to that corn for at least the rest of the meal if not longer.

People fear the commitment of the corn-on-the-cob.  Some people will not eat the corn-on-the-cob because of the mess and aftermath, and they are totally MISSING OUT on a delicious food that compliments a fabulous barbeque!  If people are passing on the simple commitments what are they missing out on when they pass on the bigger commitments like a business endeavor, a relationship or even a cell phone contract?

When I think about all the commitments I have made in my life I realize how empty my life would be without them – no husband, no kids, no business, no house…the list goes on and on.  Commitments can be scary, but they can also be the most rewarding.  Enter commitments with caution, but do not fear them.  Start small – don’t run out and get a huge tattoo on your back for your first commitment – but eat that corn-on-the-cob and enjoy it!