The Magical Me Makeover Purpose

The Magical Me Makeover begins now.  Since we live in a crazy, spinning, stressful world I thought it was time to bring some simplicity back to our lives.  When I think of a simpler time I reflect on my childhood.  Maybe that is why I am a play therapist – because children have a right to live freely.  Think about it – for a majority of us as children you had no concept of work or bills; clothing magically appeared in your closet, dinner was on the table.  As a child you could be whatever you wanted – often changing your mind on a daily basis.  There was no stress.  There was no running from appointment to appointment.  I was tea time all day!

The Magical Me Makeover is designed to bring out your true loves, and then use those true loves to rejuvenate yourself.  For the next ten days I will post a question.  You can choose how you want to reflect on it – or if you even want to (you don’t have to answer all the questions – it’s not graded;).  Some people may journal, some may paint or draw, some may just think about the question.  There is no right or wrong way to do this – just like when you were a kids – anything goes!

I will post the question in one blog post, and later in the day I will post my reflection to the question for you all to see.  If anything, I hope this journey will inspire you to feel the freedom of a child – even if it is only for five minutes a day!

Here we go!!!

My ruby red slippers all ready for the Magical Me Makeover journey!

My ruby red slippers all ready for the Magical Me Makeover journey!

Teach Love and Respect – Not Hate and Hurts

In society there appears to be so much anger.  I determined today that I dislike the word “tolerance.”  Someone said today “I have taught my children tolerate gay people.”  Say what?  The definition of to tolerate something or someone means that you “allow the existence, occurrence or practice of something without interference” (  First of all, who is anyone to “allow” something.  Each individual has the right to make their own choices, and they should not to worried about whether or not the person sitting next to them is “allowing it without interference.”  Seriously!  I feel that a better word is respect.  In society we should be teaching our children to live in a world where they respect and love one another – not hate and hurt each other.  We need to recognize that everyone has different beliefs, morals, values, sexual orientation, skin color, religion, etc.  We need to teach our children to be open to other people’s opinions.  Does that mean that they should change their beliefs.  No!  It just means that everyone should be allowed to speak freely, love freely and live freely without the fear of retaliation from another human.  We should not be “tolerating” – we should be RESPECTING.

My boys sharing the love!

Non-conformity and Social Norms

I often wonder how we can become a more loving, caring and accepting society.  As I move through my life I run into more and more judgemental people, and often wonder to myself “why?”  Is it ignorance?  Their belief system?  Their values?  The way they were raised?

I like to live my life not caring about what other people think of me.  I like to push the limits on social norms what is “acceptable.”  I think back to my first job.  I worked in a retail clothing store, but not one a typical 16 year-old would work in (it was no Wet Seal or Forever 21).  I worked in a store that will remain nameless but let’s just say it targeted the older, professional female population.  I had gotten this job because my parents were friends with the manager, and she was willing to work with my busy high school activity schedule.  Anyone who shopped in this store will know that it was famous for “matching everything.”  So basically anyone that shopped there not only bought the red-squared printed shirt, but the matching earrings, necklace and socks. Additionally, if you saw someone dressed in an outfit like that walking down the street, you knew what store it came from.  You get the idea.  The dress code was pretty basic for the employees – dress clothing, dress shoes and no visible piercings or tattoos.  Seems easy to follow, right?  Something you should know is that this was around the time that nail polish took a risk (about 1995-997) and started creating your “not normal” colors – blue, orange, yellow, green, etc.  I, of course, felt that this was amazing and bought every color possible.  I matched my nail polish to my outfit each day.  Then it happened…”Nikki, that nail polish is not really “professional, and we don’t want our customers to stop shopping here.”  SAY WHAT?  I was young and my parents were still technically the boss of me, and they agreed with my manager.  I was just so angry.  Who decided that my nail polish wasn’t “professional?” It wasn’t in the dress code that I couldn’t wear funky colored nail polish.  So I pushed the envelope – yep – still wore it, and challenged the dress code.  I was probably pretty close to losing my job due to my “non-conformity.”  Then one day I was unpacking the boxes of stock items when guess what I found?  You got it – “unprofessional” colored nail polish.  Needless to say the disagreements about my nail polish stopped and I now got a DISCOUNT on fun nail polish.

Through my story today I want you to take two things away.  First, stop and think about how you are judging people on a daily basis.  Who are we to say what is right or wrong?  What people can wear or who people can love.  Secondly, feel the freedom of being non-judgemental.  Feel the freedom of life.  Take risks – whether they are small or big.  Go ahead – wear that funky nail polish and don’t worry or care about what others think!